There's a tree in the neighbors yard that I watch. Every morning as soon as I open my eyes, my gaze wanders to that tree. There's nothing special about this tree. It could almost be considered a nuisance the way its branches dance over the fence and deposit crumbling leaves in our yard every fall. … Continue reading The Tree
Hi. I’m Angry. Anybody Else?
Does anybody else get angry? Not the quick episodic anger of a single moment but that deep, adrenaline soaked, trembling hands style rage that makes you go just a little numb? I look all over social media and no one seems angry. They seem okay and I wonder if maybe I'm the last angry person … Continue reading Hi. I’m Angry. Anybody Else?
I Thought I’d be Better at This
I thought I'd be better at this. I don't know why...nothing about isolation and sacrifice is particularly up my alley, but I did. I thought I would weather this with poise, and cheerful acceptance. A heroine in an Austen era book. A long suffering, sympathetic character that everyone roots for and who triumphs gracefully (and … Continue reading I Thought I’d be Better at This
Girl Scouting with Anxiety; Cookies are a Problem
Last week my daughter had a break through. She actually said good morning to her teacher at morning meeting. It's February and she utterly adores her teacher, but this was still the first time she's every done more than shrink into herself and vehemently shake her head no. Then, at her girl scout meeting, she … Continue reading Girl Scouting with Anxiety; Cookies are a Problem
Stop Asking About Babies; an Open Letter
*This one goes out to all my child-free-by-choice friends, the ones dreading those inevitable holiday visits. Feel free to just low key post this to your Facebook page and watch the uncomfortable silence of your in-laws and nosy parents. Dear Nosy-in-laws/parents, Holiday season is upon us! Halloween is a mere 2 weeks away and then … Continue reading Stop Asking About Babies; an Open Letter
Not Reading the Comments is Making Me a Shitty Ally
...turning a blind eye to these messages of hate and ridicule is not self care. It's self indulgence.
"Where perfectionism exists, shame is always lurking." -Brene Brown Today, one of my biggest shame monsters came out to play. I have a lot of these assholes (don't we all?) in a variety of shapes and sizes, colors and temperaments, but since becoming a parent this particular shame monster has become increasingly vicious. … Continue reading Shame Monster
Trying on Fear
We interrupt this Lizzo self love series with this nugget of wisdom from a 4 year old. Part 2 coming at you this week. A few weeks ago, my youngest watched the Little Mermaid for the first time. While he enjoyed it (cause duh, who doesn't love the soundtrack???) he was absolutely terrified of Ursula. … Continue reading Trying on Fear
So You’re in Love with Lizzo…Now What? Part 1: Curate your Feed
In this, the year of our Lizzo 2019, we learned many things. We learned that truth hurts, we are 100% that bitch, and that you really could have had said bad bitch (and all those truthbombs come from just from one of her songs). Thanks to Lizzo, we're all riding the wave of body love and … Continue reading So You’re in Love with Lizzo…Now What? Part 1: Curate your Feed
Sometimes the Worst News is the Best Outcome
There's something magical about writer's conferences (or at least it seems to inspire magical thinking). We all go in with two secret thoughts: first, that we'll be the absolute, bottom of the barrel worst writer there. Everyone will confirm what we secretly thought all along, that we are wasting our time, will never amount to … Continue reading Sometimes the Worst News is the Best Outcome